Sign language with infants and toddlers

http://youtu.be/PtYv1AL-CkQ


 When nonverbal children have a means of expressing their wants and needs it reduces frustration for the adult as well as the child. Just think of how often your young child wants or needs something but you are not sure what it is. Your child becomes exacerbated with you and you become completely frustrated with the whole situation. Sign language is one way for communication to take place between adults and children to limit the times of frustration.

There is much research in the child development field implying that using sign language with your young child enhances not just language development, but also cognitive development, fine motor development, and - if used correctly - social and emotional development.

The tips at the beginning of the video are essential. Only use the signs that are important to your child. Children need concrete ways to build the connection between language and their environment. Remember to use the signs in context and continue it (often for months) until your child picks it up.

The appropriateness of time out with toddlers

As infants develop independence and grow into toddlerhood they naturally test boundaries, limits and often choose to ignore adult requests. When and how do you as a caregiver consistently stick to boundaries and limits with your toddler in the face of all that "defiance"?

Natural consequences often do not work in the heat of  opposition when a child is simply refusing to do as you ask. However, it can be a logical consequence to tell a child that they cannot do anything else until they follow through with what you've asked them to do, which is essentially time out. It is all about presentation though, and how you set it up.

I disagree with the standard way time out is used. It should not be a punishment, but it can be used as discipline (that is, to TEACH a child). In this sense it works well for out right defiance. The major difference in using it this way is that it does NOT go by the standard one minute of sitting for every year of age the child is. Here is an example of when and how it would be appropriate:

Adult: "Please put your cars back in the bucket they go in."

Child: does nothing or says "No"

Adult: "Put your cars where they go so nobody steps on them."

Child: still does nothing

Adult: "You can either put the cars away or you can sit until your ready."

Child: still does not comply

Adult: Takes child by the hand or gently picks up, depending on age, in a calm manner and firmly states, "You can sit until your ready to put the cars away. You will not do anything else until the cars are picked up." as they sit the child down in a designated spot away from distractions and attention.

*As the child gets up, if they do not go to pick up the cars then the adult takes them back and sits them down, repeating the above statement. If the child tries to get up again without complying the adult no longer speaks or makes eye contact but simply, calmly and gently leads them back to sit down. This continues for however long it takes for the child to put the cars away. THIS ONLY WORKS WHEN A CHILD UNDERSTANDS WHAT YOU ARE ASKING OF THEM, YOU REMAIN CALM AND DO NOT GIVE ATTENTION UNTIL THE CHILD COMPLIES. BE CONSISTENT AND FOLLOW THROUGH EVERY TIME!

Natural and Logical Consequences

Natural and logical consequences are the best route to use because they are directly linked to the behavior you are waning to stop from being repeated. 

Natural consequences do NOT require you to step in to reinforce why a behavior should not happen. They are naturally provided by the environment. An example of this would be if you tell a child that the stove is hot ("no touching, it's hot) and the child touches it anyways. The hurt of being burned would be a natural consequence. Obviously this is not something you want but this does teach, and often times better than any consequence the adult could think up.  Another logical consequence would be if you told a child to pick up a toy. They did not listen and the toy is stepped on, breaking it. The toy being broken on accident would be the natural consequence. 

Logical consequences are facilitated by the caregiver and are directly connected to the behavior. For instance, if a child colors on the furniture or wall a logical consequence would be to have them clean it.   

What other natural and logical consequences can you think of?